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This is a post I wrote just before leaving for Thailand. I had no intention of ever posting when I wrote it but maybe in doing so it will help someone.
Unfortunatley death comes to us all at some point, it is a part of life. This article is a selection from my writings on my mother which help me come to terms with her death and remember what is truly important in life.
Dealing with Grief
It’s 12:34 am as I write this. Three hours ago I was standing at the foot of my mother’s grave and now I sit alone listening to to the soft tones of a young woman’s voice sing to me from the record player in the darkness. It has been over a year since the cancer claimed her.
How does one deal with grief and the loss of a loved one?
How do you move on…or do you ever, really move on?
I do not believe that one can ever really know true sadness until they have lost someone dear to them. You can have a bad day, a bad week or a bad year – your business can collapse, you can lose the championship game, you can blow it big time on any matter of things, but all these things are temporary, they are passing like the wind and they will be replaced. Unlike death, they do not hit us at the core of what it means to be human.
How can you replace a life? Something so unique, so mysterious and so free.
I don’t have any answers, just questions.
The Irony of Humanity
My only thoughts are that I would trade everything I have now and everything I might ever have in the future, for the chance to spend just one more day with my mum.
It is a bittersweet irony that we, as humans, seem incapable of realizing just how blessed we are and what wonders we have before us until they are gone.
Although I would never wish the death of a loved one on anyone, we that have loved and lost share an understanding of sorrow that no-one outside of our circle could understand and one that should, in theory, place both the beauty and the frailty of life right at the forefront of our thinking – ahead of our personal plans, goals and aspirations – to where we focus on what is truly the most important aspect of any life – relationship with one another.
To be loved and to love in return, there is nothing more important in life than that.
What’s Important In Life?
I was fortunate to know that I was truly loved by my mum and that that love was returned, as her love was with each of my family. This is something I can hold onto in life – to take with me through whatever lies ahead.
There is nothing more important in life than your family, your relationships and love. Never forget this truth and make the most of every moment that you are fortunate enough to share with those that you love and that love you back.
Set your sails to the wind and smile, appreciate the wonders of life and never let it just pass you by without wrestling the fullness out of it. Share the journey for you cannot man the ship alone. Angela Christina Gibaud understood this and pursued the very essence of life with an unrelenting passion. We would do well to follow her example.
….Let the winds blow.