How To Change Your Current Reality By Inflating A Bigger Balloon For A Better Life

Why Read

Possibly the most important post I have ever written and the most powerful in terms of changing your reality and effecting the rest of your life.

A highly visual and critical lesson in your current reality and the implications it has for the rest of your life. You cannot afford to miss this one.

Reality And The Future

Your current reality is at the core of who you are and the life you are living right now. What reality you have in the  future will determine who you are and the life you will be living then. Visualizing this need in order to upgrade your reality is difficult and the reason I have developed the concept of Reality Balloons.

The Reality Balloons

One of these balloons will define your current reality and one will define your future reality. You can be happy in both just as you can be unhappy in both. Whether you are happy in life or not will determine which balloon you want to be in and whether that is indeed the case.

Your reality can be best illustrated visually by a balloon.

Some people have a very small balloons and their current reality is very limited. Others have slightly bigger balloons and live a much larger reality, other still have huge balloons and live a life many of us cannot imagine. Here are the balloons.

The Birthday Balloon Reality

Most people only ever own a birthday balloon throughout their lifetime.

You know the ones, small size and usually have some simple or ironic birthday message like “Happy 13th Birthday” or “Now That You Are 25 – No More Sheep”.

Some peoples birthday balloons are more inflated than others but all are limited to a very small size, small enough for a child to hold.

People that I would put in this category are those stuck in a 9-5 job – the deflated balloon owners hate their jobs and the highly inflated balloon owners love them but are trapped by them.

The Fairground Balloon Reality

Some others in life own fairground balloons.

They have a bigger reality and thus live a bigger life than most. There are quite a people who own fairground balloon realties.

People I put in this category are those currently living their dreams, owning a small business, living where they want and having more free time than most. They work hard, they play hard but their reality is still small enough to be held by hand. They mainly work for themselves and have very little effect on the lives of others.

The Hot Air Ballon Reality

Still others own Hot Air Balloon Realties.

They have a large balloon and a large reality, it cannot be grounded by any individual nor in fact by many people.

The hot air balloon reality has huge amounts of lift and can carry the owner and others up to very high heights.

People I put in this category are large business and charity owners, the builders of organizations and systems that make themselves rich and help a huge amount of others in the process through products, services and job opportunities.

They enjoy the best things in life and they make positive impacts on hundreds of people in their home cities and countries.

The German Airship Reality

A small number of people in this world have airship realities.

Nothing short of powerful machinery can keep them from becoming airborne and rising to incredibly heights.

The Airships have unrivaled power and lift. They lift hundreds and thousands of people up with them.

I put people like Henry Ford, Edison, Warren Buffet and Richard Brandson into this category.

They live lives that most can not even dream about. They can have and experience anything this world has to offer and in their success they change the lives of millions around the globe through their ideas, businesses and systems.

Your Future Reality

Where are you currently? Are you a birthday balloon, a fairground variety, or do you own a hot air balloon or just perhaps you almost have an airship.

Your future reality is first determined by what you think. If you cannot imagine ever owning the ballon above where you are now then you will NEVER be able to achieve it. Success first begins in the mind, and then through focus and hard work, is translated into reality.

You can be happy or miserable within any balloon reality so bigger is not always better. Which reality you will be happiest in is decided by you and who you are.

If you are a person who wants to own a hot air ballon reality but you stay with a birthday balloon one all your life, then you will never find peace and contentment.

There is a huge exponential difference between the four balloon realties and one cannot simply keep inflating your current balloon to get to the next size up. A paradigm shift needs to occur.

Content Verses Context – Expanding Your Reality

A paradigm shift is defined as A radical change in thinking from an accepted point of view to a new one

You cannot simply inflate you current balloon reality to the next size up. If you try to put as much air as is in a fairground balloon into a birthday ballon it will burst.

The same thing goes for a hot air balloon into a fairground and an airship into a hot air balloon, except that in these cases the difference is exponential.

To move to the next air balloon reality you need to pop your old balloon and upgrade to the next one up. Like busting a balloon this will be a shocking experience. When you burst a birthday ballon, you flinch. When you burst a birthday balloon reality, you definitely flinch.

I bursted my birthday ballon the moment I quit my high paying job and realized I was living the wrong reality. I could have spent my life inflating air into this balloon reality and might have got it to inflate to its very peak. Then, around age 35-40 I would overfill it and it would burst. I would be left with nothing because I had too much ambition for the balloon but it took me 20 years to work it out.

I burst my balloon early, even though it was becoming nicely inflated. I had a great job, great pay, lots of travel, girls and great promotion opportunity.

I would have done well, made middle management and then top management. However I would have not been happy.

I was filling a balloon I didn’t want to end up with and so I had to make the tough decision to burst it. It was shocking, it was painful and most people couldn’t understand why the hell I would do that but I understood the reality ballon concept and realize that it had to be done.

The major pain with popping the balloon is that you now upgrade to the fair ground one but it has no air in it, and it is going to take a huge amount of time and effort to inflate to anywhere near my last one was.

This is painful but necessary. I am back to square one but now, I am filling a new balloon from deflated.

My paradigm shift happened and I couldn’t be happier even though the road ahead is going to be long and tough.

I know also that in the future I eventually want to own a hot air balloon or even an airship.

Each time I am going to have to burst the ballon I am in and this time it will be even more shocking and painful.

You also will need to decide what balloon reality you want to be in and make your decisions. If you are happy with a Birthday Balloon Reality then great, many people have been happy and successful with this approach. However if you want to be the owner of a fairground, hot air, or airship balloon then you cannot be wasting your time filling air into a Birthday balloon. No matter how full it gets you will never be happy until it bursts and then you will be left with nothing.

People will have different ballon realities at different times in life. You cannot go from Birthday Balloon straight to Airship without owning each of the two before it. Just make sure you know which reality balloon you are currently holding and if you are happy with it at this point in your life.

To Sum Up

Be honest with yourself and decide what reality ballon you are in. If you are happy to own this ballon, however well inflated, at the end of your life then great, stick with what you have and fill it to breaking point.

If however you want to own a different ballon, then you will never be happy no matter how much you fill your current one.

If you want to end up with a different ballon reality you have to first burst your current one. It will be painful, you will have to start again and you will have to work even harder but if that is what you want then you will not be happy any other way.

Please re-read this post because it is the most important one I have ever written and if you fully grasp the concept it will revolutionize your life.

Thanks for reading.


  • June 22, 2010 Reply

    jamie blake

    My friend i couldn’t of put it better. When i quit my full time job to have more freedom it was the scariest thing, but it is the best thing.

    Now i have 2 companies, that im working to expand.

    My goal is to have a company that helps many people. i can retire early and set up my own aid charity to help more. i feel that life is about those you can help and loosing ourself in the service of others. This is the greatest of all rewards.

    But now now, like you im still blowing air into my balloon, and putting my life, attitude and personality in the right place. Great things come from change and im not afraid of those things.

    • June 22, 2010 Reply


      Good to hear it mate, sounds like you’ve turned a corner and are looking more positively on life.

  • June 22, 2010 Reply

    Eduard @ People Skills Decoded

    Hey Jonny,

    Talk about a catchy title! ;)

    And the content lives up to the title in my perspective. This balloon metaphor, and especially popping one to upgrade to the next one is awesome.

    • June 22, 2010 Reply


      Cheers Eduard, glad you like it. Has been pinnacle to my own development since I thought it up a few months ago.

  • June 22, 2010 Reply


    If it’s that important, you should probably spell the title right ;)

    “The Most Important Post I have Every Written About Lifestyle Design”

    • June 22, 2010 Reply


      Very true, very true. Thanks for the heads up.

  • June 22, 2010 Reply

    Tony Ruiz

    Loving the balloon metaphor! Rock on bro!

    • June 22, 2010 Reply


      Cheers Tony. Hope you got something from it.

  • June 23, 2010 Reply

    Angela Artemis

    Great article. I definitely need to upgrade my balloon.

    • June 23, 2010 Reply


      I don’t think you are the only one Angela, but I shotgun the red one.

  • June 23, 2010 Reply

    Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot

    I like that popping the ballon is part of the process. Yes, we fall back down to earth but having risen once before we know how to take it higher in less time second time round:)

    • June 24, 2010 Reply


      Very true Annabel very true. Great point.

  • June 24, 2010 Reply


    Nice article there! Very uncommon to compare balloons to our lifestyles, but hey, you did it well. Thank you for making this and for making us realize the kind of person that we are – which is very important I guess.

    • June 24, 2010 Reply


      Lifestyle and balloons, yes, I went there. :)

  • June 24, 2010 Reply


    Jonny, a well thought out and nicely illustrated post as always. I’ve read this post a few times now before commenting to try and apply the balloon concept to my own reality.

    Much of the reason that I avidly read and subscribe to blogs like yours is that I want to improve my lifestyle, and particularly my own work/life balance, and I guess I’m in the birthday balloon category right now.

    However, as a chap that’s nearing middle-age and with a family and a mortgaged property to suppport I think it would be difficult to burst the balloon and start inflating a bigger one. That’s the one problem I have with applying a lot of the excellent lessons from these sites – I’m not young and single with nothing to tie me down.

    So I guess I have to settle for the birthday balloon but before I start to shrink and shrivel I just need to figure out a way to let out a little air at a time and ensure it goes into a fairground balloon without losing any in the process!?!?!

    • June 25, 2010 Reply


      Very well put Tim. Obviously being able to burst a balloon reality is DEFINITELY easier when you are relatively young and have less responsibilities. However, as you have said, understanding the concept of your reality visually can help you to focus on what you other options are – like inflating your current reality to its maximum or as you put it, letting some of the air out and into the fairground balloon.

      There is nothing wrong with having any of the balloon realties as you can be successful and have a great life in any of them. It is more about understanding which reality you have and if you are happy with it or simply cannot change it then at least making the very most of it and thus the very most of life.

      Heres to your “ready to burst” Birthday balloon reality.

  • June 27, 2010 Reply


    Love the balloon metaphor Jonny! I understand the concept and have gone through this process about a year ago but in a different area of my life. In order to get to the next level in your life, you have to “burst” the one you are currently in.

    • June 27, 2010 Reply


      Hi NP,

      Thanks! As I am sure you are more than aware the bursting part is pretty painful, I know it was for me anyhow.

  • June 28, 2010 Reply


    The headline caught my attention. Great post and wonderful tips you have shared here!

    • June 28, 2010 Reply


      Hi Kev, It’s all about the headlines baby. Thanks for the comments and I am glad you enjoyed the post.

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