This is a guest posted from Nazim of the Grow Exponentially Blog in response to the “A Case for Listening To Young Minds Not Yet Shaped By the World” article. Nazim is an incredibly talented young blogger who writes articles on The Pursuit of Personal Growth. I highly recommend visiting his site and seeing for yourself.

Nobody has an objectively perfect life. Sadness is bound to happen. Since impermanence is permanent in this world, does it not make sense to end your resistance to it and accept it for what it is. But even further, use it to your benefit?

Unfortunately, the majority of people resist negative emotion. They deny it. They pretend like they don’t have it. They put on a fake smile. They cry in the restroom. How do I know? Because I too am human. But how about reveling in sadness? How about being an alchemist and using it to better yourself.

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Loss makes room for other things

It has been said that dissolution or loss happens to make room for other things. And it does. It makes room for your own growth. I remember that the most blissful periods in my existence based on my past have followed after a period of deep sorrow. For example, after my girlfriend broke up with me. I was miserable. But that sadness, or rather, the choice to feel my sadness fully, let to some of the most powerful realizations.

Am I perfect now?
No.
Am I delusional?
No.
Am I more equipped to tackle life?
Yes.
Am I experiencing a completely higher level of joy?
Why yes.

You see, allowing yourself to feel the emotions you’re feeling and to learn from them is more powerful than anything you could ever gain from some book which promises fulfillment or some meditation tape that promises you inner peace.

Loss carves deep into your Being so that you could fill it up more deeply with joy.

Kahlil Gibran realized this truth when he said “Is it not what gave you joy also what has given you pain? Is not the cup that holds your wine the very same cup that was burned in the potters oven?”

What does this mean? It’s alright to experience whatever you’re experiencing. Don’t go into denial. Don’t tune it out with television. Don’t tune it out with other thoughts. Feel it and learn from it as it’s certainly life’s greatest teacher.

Jonny: My thanks to Nazim for this guest post. If you have like this post, why not leave a comment for Nazim and head over to his site to read more of his articles. My apologies for all those that have tried to post comments previously without luck. It appears my coding is wrong and will not allow posts without all three boxes being filled in. I am working on fixing it but until then if you wish to leave a comment but don’t have a website just paste in any website you can think of.