How To Be A Chocolate Coated, Sprinkle Covered, Irresistible Social Supermagnet

You and I will not agree on everything, I happen to think that kids falling over is funny…but you may be above that level of humor and not find this quite so hilarious. We will differ on many thing, however, I believe we can all agree that the holy grail of personal traits is to have the ability to be almost instantly liked by anyone you come into contact with – To be a Chocolate Coated, Sprinkle Covered, Irresistable Social Supermagnet. Yes? I thought so.

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Some people, and I know you know of whom I speak, have a covetable ability to walk into a room and instantly attract people to them like a supermagnet on steroids.

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These supermagnetic people, regardless of the situation presented to them or wether they are indeed coved in chocolate and sprinkles, seem to be able to blend in effortlessly to their environment like a ninja in the dark, they are able to converse with strangers like a long time family friend and they can instantly become involved in any conversations like a fellow topic expert. Then to top things off, they end up becoming the centre of conversation and are the ones that others remember and talk about.

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Sickening isn’t it. Well my friend, that can be you, my chocolate coated, sprinkle covered, irresistible social supermagnet – without needing to spend a fortune on Cadburys.

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These kind of people are not that different from you and I. Although one can never account for natural personality, there are some fundamental concepts that these people understand and apply to be as good as they are. They are not complicated methods and you can learn them too.

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Slam the Breaks On Buddy, Before You Read On

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As a quick side note, I want to first clarify that this is not one of those really annoying regurgitation posts written by someone on a subject he knows nothing about and has no real personal experience within. You know the ones people, where the author simply repackages other peoples ideas into a bullet point todo list without having actually applied them to their own lives to see if they work. They are annoying.

These concepts on becoming a chocolate covered supermagnet I describe work, and the reason I know that they work is because they are the core ones that I use on a regular basis. As much as I dislike blowing my own horn (mainly because it is so small), one of my major skills, and my major skills are limited, is that I am exceptionally good at getting people to like me.

This post is actually written for one of my good friends who asked me one day how I manage to get people to like me so quickly and frequently, regardless of the occasion.

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The concepts I outline are practical, applyable and they work, unlike Teflon coated truck tires.

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There are only a few here, as there are many, many techniques that can be applied in communication and social interaction, however these are some of the more easily applied and most powerful. Read them, understand them and then apply them and see the difference it makes.

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Become Irresistible Rule 1 – Smile

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I can not overemphasize this enough. The power of a smile and subtle use of humor breaks down social barriers as effectively as lipase does fat. Smiling increases your own personal sense of well being and reduces tensions and anxiety, all factors that are readily picked up by others.

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It is worth remembering that over 60% of our communication is non verbal, 30% is in the tone of voice and only 10% has actually got anything to do with what we say.

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This is why it is essential to understand how your mannerism plays the biggest part in social interaction. People are like mirrors, they reflect the energy they receive. If you are giving out energy then they will tend to reflect this also.

Smiling is a very practical way to produce within yourself a more attractive mannerism. Fitting into a crowd starts becoming a lot easier when people start picking up on you attractive body language – and this starts with a smile.

Get yourself in front of the mirror and practice that toothy grin. It is worth brushing beforehand, you don’t want to scare yourself.

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Becoming Irresistible Rule 2 – Let them talk

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We have two ears and one mouth. It is not rocket science people, this kind of suggests that we should be listening twice as much as we are speaking, however in almost all social interaction this is not the case.

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Very few people are good listeners and usually are only letting the other person have a few words while they work out what to say next.

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The very best social super magnets are people who understand that one the easiest ways to be incredible attractive to people is to simply listen to them. There is nothing more attractive than someone taking a genuine interest in you and what you have to say. There are many, many times when I have been at parties and almost no one knows much about me or what I do, but I know all about them and what they do, what they get excited about and what their dream and passions are. This should be your goal also.

Get out of yourself and take the time to listen and find out more about others, you will benefit more greatly then you could possibly imagine.

Is it any wonder that they remember me and wish to talk to me more. Wouldn’t you want to remember someone who took an interest in your dreams and wouldn’t you want to talk more to someone who genuinely took an interest and was excited about what you had to say, your ideas and your passions. I certainly would, it makes me feel important and makes me believe that my thoughts and dreams are worth while. This is incredibly attractive.

Really very simple stuff. Stop talking and start listening, you might even learn something.

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Becoming Irresistible Rule 3 – Be Genuinely Interested

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You can’t fake this, apart from when at car boot sales where all logic seems to be left at the entrance, people are very good at picking up fakes. When you listen to someone, you need to really be listening and genuinely being interested and not just trying to look like you are.

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People are fascinating creatures and every single person has a unique story and angle on life, you need only to ask the right questions to unlock their thoughts and their good graces.

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There are different tips and tricks that can be used to help encourage the person you are talking to believe you are interested and to be truthful, these can be faked, but I would always suggest against it as then what is the point, you learn a lot more from being genuine.

Maintaining eye contact, shadowing a persons movement and fill gestures such as head nods, agreements and the like can all be taught if you want to fake interaction, but they can also be used to help you develop interaction. Always use them for the latter, don’t be a fake.

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Becoming Irresistible Rule 4 – Be Agreeable

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You are not always going to agree with someone, and just like shellfish, they are definitely not always going to agree with you.

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One of the most unattractive qualities of any individual, and especially one you have just met, is if they keep disagreeing with and challenging your views, opinions, thoughts or ideas.

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Even if you do disagree with someone, don’t jump in and pull them on issue in question or worse yet, correct them. Even if you are right, it is a fact that you will ultimately lose, as that person is very unlikely to look favorable on you in future, with good reason – You are being a Jackass. Instead, try questioning why a person believes or thinks a certain way, or believes a certain theory or goal to be correct. It is a good idea never to speak in absolutes but leave discussions open and flexible. Absolutes back you into a wall, open questions and answers give you freedom to move – or dance if you so wish.

When you are genuinely interested in people, you are interested in their thoughts and ideas as well, even if you don’t agree with them. Also it is worth remembering that, if you are anything like me, most of the time you are probably wrong in your thinking anyway so don’t be so quick to jump into a conversation and prove it.

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Becoming Irresistible Rule 5 – Use Their Name

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Fundamental. A persons name is the sweetest sounding word in the world. It is like a Dunkin Donuts blueberry frappe with the ice removed. Use it to your advantage. Find it out early and use it a few times in the early sentences of interaction. Using a persons name frequently has the added benefit of giving a sense of closeness, even to a stranger, as ones name is such a personal and powerful thing.

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Hearing ones own name is like having liquid honey dripping from the speakers lips – it truly is irresistible, so use it to your advantage.

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Go Forth And Prosper You Belgium Chocolate Covered, Sprinkle Coated, Irresistible Social Supermagnets High On Red Bull, The Social Arena Awaits You.

Oh yeah, one other great tip for making yourself popular is to promote this article. Its scientifically proven to make you more attractive. Try it out and see.